Women have been working for ages. Earlier for the elders in the house. Later for themselves and then for their own family and child. And, this cycle keeps on to continue for their entire life.
But along with the decision of working, there comes a pang of guilt (internally or mostly forced externally). People even raise brows on how good the working mothers are for their children.
Without question, we are not at all here referring to working mothers being better than the stay-at-home mothers. Rather the lessons taught by a stay-at-home mother easily reach their children than a working mother. That’s why the remark, “No one way of parenting is better than the other”. Working mothers equally love their children and passion for career/job.
Those are the essentials of women’s lessons to their children. India’s female labour-force contribution is amongst the lowest in the entire world and it has only gone down in the last decade. A woman leaves behind the age-old wage gap and social prejudice to make her career grow. Meanwhile, they teach life lessons to their kids-
Some Fantabulous Working Skills
When the children see their mothers working effortlessly for home and office, they recognise the great efforts put in by their mother from an early age. They respect that effort and want to give in return the same when they grow up.
I’ll share an interesting story here, I have a joint family in my hometown. I remember a child from my family wondering that I have my own office space at my Preschool. He uttered surprisingly, “He thought only his uncle (my husband) has the office just as his father, and I don’t have one as her mother.” I was amazed to see the beauty of innocence in the little child. They really are a piece of clay, mould them in a structure and they take the shape. An environment plays a great role in shaping their mind and soul.
We get so many children at our daycare, whose mothers are working and we take pride saying that we are the “Second Home” for those children. I often talk to these children in my free time to understand their feelings about their mother working. They’re such an innocent soul and they adore their working mothers. Of course, unless they grow up and our evil society plugs their ears with unnecessary benefits of their mother being at home with them. They are observing their mothers doing so much work (both at the workplace and home) since their birth and being financially independent to do everything for their children. I’m very sure these children are going to be focused just as their mothers and learn some extraordinary work skills for life.
Learn Scheduling, Prioritizing, Organizing with Productivity
Since the working mothers have their time divided to be devoted to home and office, they have to manage the same effectively. When a child observes his mother planning each and every work in various time frames of suitability, he learns to schedule. The mother practices the art of prioritising and keeping her tasks maintained in a to-do-list to stay organised and productive every day. The child learns so much on an everyday basis from the mother herself that it becomes a life skill for the child to stay organised and result productively.
Social & Gender Equality
That’s because, for working mothers, the pressure is on to be emotionally and mentally present at home and work. Often leaving little time for them to rejuvenate and relax. But what value all of it hold in them? The child who observes their mother working equally as their father (outside of the home while earning bread and butter for the family), better understands gender equality.
The child (when grows up) respects a women’s choice of working outside the house and earning money for herself & the family. Child notices from his childhood that no task is gender-specific. In fact,
It’s Significant to do things for Your Self-Esteem
Indian society is such that if a women works outside people begin making remarks like, “the family must be in a monetary crunch, that’s why the female member is working.”
From very young ages, girls are burdened with external demands – some familial and others societal – that chain them to an “ought self” and limit their full potential.
Some scientific researches have proven how the process of early attachment works for a child with his mother. The child (even when is inside the mother’s womb), senses the outside world of the mother. Research suggests that when people with low self-esteem are given negative feedback or meet social rejection, their self-evaluations grow more negative and they close down in embarrassment and humiliation. Those with high self-esteem, instead, are quite immune to failure. They learn from their mistakes and stay in the game without beginning an attack of self-criticism.
The quality of Self-Esteem is inherited in a child from the mother since s/he was in her womb. When the child observes the mother backing her own standpoint for career and life goals, they feel dignified. The sense of working for one’s personal ambition and career goals (not just need of money) is imbibed in a child since birth when they observe the working mother around her. This pure heart understands his/her mother’s self-esteem and tries to become similar when the time comes.
Smartness of Management
A working mother has several bits and pieces to look upon on a daily basis. When it’s 3:00 O’clock in the afternoon; a working woman starts to juggle in her mind among her child’s pickup from school, project tasks to be submitted by 6:00 PM, maid reaching home on time in the evening and what to cook for dinner that night etc..
There is one thing that keeps her on track is proper planning of her day. Ranging from food menu planning to structure the day all over is a part of her smart management. The child who lives in an environment wherein his/her mother is multitasking to get all the chores done; s/he automatically begins to learn the concept of management since childhood. This very child recognises the value of time and tries to manage his/her just like their mother. Also, the child learns the smartness of delegating the work as well.
A working mother can’t do everything herself. C’mon! Let’s accept this, she’s not a superwoman. She needs a nanny, a cook, a driver etc. Basically, a support group to make her life a bit easier by delegating her workload. The child under her supervision also learns the importance of delegation for an efficient rearing of his own. Delegating work in a support group might make the mother spend a little money but it will ease her life. It’s important for the mother to be at peace and make the child a better person altogether.
There is no rulebook written for learning a working or a stay at home mother can give to their children. It’s something that you pick up while experiencing it. Even the best mothers have room for improvement. I have here noted down a few pointers that really help the children grow into a better person without the mother even realising if she has put some extra efforts for the same or not. She’s just doing her JOB.
Let’s support the working women do her JOBS efficiently.