Hello, dear mommies & daddies, I’m back with my yet another blog post for you. When I was writing the draft on “AtoZ of Bonding with Children“, I wanted to cover it in great depth. And, so I decided to split the content into two parts.
In case you want to read the first part of this draft here you go A to Z of Bonding with Your Child. This post includes the bonding tips from A to M. Now, I’ll share my thoughts on N to Z of bonding with the children.
Parents are often observed to be nudging their children to perform better at every stage of their life. I sometimes find it awkward to see it in my own school where the age group is 1.5 to 6 only. Few kids are so much pressurised to perform in the school events that they feel distressed. Teach your child to perform, compete (in a healthy way of course!), win but never pressurise them for their performance. No child performs at their best under so much of nudging. Don’t let a small life event become a traumatic event for your child’s rest of life.
Overcome the Bad Times
There can’t always be flowers singing a carol, birds chirping the music and the bright sun becoming the stage light. We all have our tough days and bad times in life too. Help your child overcome those tough times together. For a toddler removing his milk bottle for the first time can be considered a bad phase. And, for a school going child first day of school could be a nightmare. Similarly, for a grown-up child being bullied at school by another student can be disheartening. If we talk of a teenage girl, her first sight of period stain can be traumatising. There will come a different kind of bad times at different stages of the life of a child, as a parent just try to be there with them and overcome those bad times composed.
Popcorn Party May Help
It is wisely said by someone, “When you are obsessing over a thought, pop Popcorns”. Small family time with a Netflix show (favorite of the child) ON, and a bowl full of popcorns can never go wrong. When you spend a good time with your child together, you create worthy memories which always helps the child associating his/her fond remembrances with the parents in a happy way through their life.
Just remember a Popcorn party can never go wrong, period!
Quote nobody Else
Comparison amongst siblings, relative’s kids, neighbors’ children, etc. only kills the special self of your own child. Never quote any other child’s good doings to better your own child’s performance in the same. This not only sublimes the special performance feature of your child but suppresses the child’s desire to even participate in such action which leads him to be compared with his peers.
Oh Common! I don’t think I need to elaborate on this. All the mommies and daddies these days are tech savvy and have high-quality camera phones. Few are digitally so sound that they do professional photography too for their children. This recording of memories is very crucial for your child’s positive upbringing. When your child (during their grown-up age) looks upon the pictures of his childhood, he feels loved and in turn nurtures the love and affection for you. The child is not always going to be fitting into your lap. Creating a memory of that scene holding your child in lap is recorded in the picture or video format forever which you and your child both can cherish ever.
Sing Songs with Your Child
Singing is a stress relieving and bond making activity which brings you and your child together. You two may have different taste when it comes to the genre of music but surely you can solve it through and get connected.
Singing with the children has an impressive cognitive and developmental benefits on them. Music enriches brain advancement in areas related to pattern recognition, totaling, organization, timing, and division of larger notes into smaller notes. Thus helping the child secure good marks in Mathematics…Ah, a dream for most of the parents.
Tanginess is the New Spice of Life
When the child goes naughty someday, bring out the naughty child in you upfront and just enjoy with your child forgetting that you’re a parent. You both will certainly remember this very moment till your last breath rather than doing homework together. Fathers, take your young daughter on a dinner date after dressing her like a princess. Mothers, take your son to a gaming zone and play with them just as a friend and see the connection you’ve built in a span of a few hours only. Adding little tanginess to your sweet moments is what makes your life appetizing.
This especially happens with the small children when they have learned to speak and are exploring their speech. They try to describe each and everything around them in their own language. This might sometimes result in the constant chattering of the child irrespective of the fact if anybody listens to the same or not. This may sound utter nonsense to you but on a true note, the child is finding interest in their newly found voice and want to explore it to the maximum and thus the constant unrecognizable talk.
There are certain values that we should begin to instill in our kids by the age of 5 years. To name a few Truthfulness & Honesty comes at top of my values list. Next few are: determination for taking on any challenge, consideration of other’s feelings, sharing their favorite makes them a better person at heart, and love towards people & animals with compassion.
Watch Movies Together
Movies, when coupled with a social message, are bliss to be watched with your child. Sometimes Comedy movies such as Tom and Jerry Tales, Mr. Bean, and most of the Adam Sandler Movies are really worth watching and they serve as relaxation. Sometimes good role models and characters in the movies influence the child in real life which is a good thing to be exercised.
XYZ only is not enough
We all have heard the rhyme, A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J, K, L, M, N, O, P, Q, R, S, T, U and V, W, X, Y and Z Now, I know my ABC’s. Next time won’t you sing with me? A child could sometimes not be speaking in this order, or not recognizing a letter per se, let it be! When the right time comes, he/she will automatically be well versed with it. ABCD only doesn’t limit the child’s life, let your child explore their life beyond this. Let the child explore their executive function skills areas, their cognitive areas and mental flexibility for a better life altogether.